![]() ![]() ![]() (Later editions of the book extended the love languages doctrine to apply to all kinds of relationships, from parents and children to co-workers.) “There’s a universal human need to feel loved,” he writes in the book. ![]() Maybe my erstwhile boyfriend’s love language was something different, like gift giving, or physical touch.Ĭhapman’s Love Languages, first published in 1992, argues that many relationship conflicts can be explained by his theory of romantic miscommunication. Not everyone thinks a plastic container of soup can contain heavy romantic overtones, but I do. He would have explained that we were speaking different “love languages.” I was and remain someone who loves small acts of consideration. Gary Chapman, author of the blockbuster, perennially best-selling relationship advice book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts, would probably have read it differently. If I was sick… wouldn’t it be best if he left me alone? Maybe we could hang out again when I was feeling better? I remember feeling humiliated, like I’d been stood up on a date. The symbolic importance of the soup appeared to be completely lost on him. In fact, he expressed his bewilderment more eloquently than he had ever expressed anything to me before. When I called him and asked, sickly-yet-cutely, if he could bring me some soup, he seemed confused by the request. ![]()
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